MYSTICAL
MARRIAGE
When
Helen, said to be the most beautiful woman in Greek antiquity fled with her
lover to Troy, she did not receive the reception that she expected. Although
her lover was Paris, the son of the King, he and his courtiers were reluctant
to admit her. One look at her face rightly confirmed that her husband, the King
of Sparta would indeed launch a thousand ships to retrieve her. She was
therefore understandably interrogated about her motives for deserting him. The
king was on the point of rejecting her when she cried out in her defence,
“Do we not all know that the gods have made us to love and to be
loved, and so achieve our destiny? I can only achieve that destiny here in Troy
and with your son, Paris, whom I love with all my heart.”
Created
to Love
One
thousand years later Jesus came to tell us that our God has also created us to
love and to be loved, as part of the preparation for the infinite loving that
is our ultimate destiny. Learning to love here on earth, prepares us for the
ultimate love for which we all yearn in heaven. That is why marriage is a
sacrament and that is why, first and foremost and before all else, Jesus went
to Cana in Galilee, not just to give his blessing to human marriage, but to
show how human loving can be transformed when, as it is being learnt, it is
suffused with and surcharged by the divine.
The Old
Order Into the New
This
was for St John, who tells the story in his own unique way, the meaning of the
miracle of the changing of the water into wine. He does not call it a miracle,
but a sign because what the miracle signifies is more important than the
miracle itself. This sign has long since been interpreted as symbolising how,
just as Jesus can change water into wine, he can change the old order into the
new; the Old Covenant into the New Covenant. However, the context in which he
performs this action gives it a more specific meaning. Now, and in future,
thanks to the incarnation, human love will be suffused through and through with
the divine.
he performs this action gives it a more
specific meaning. Now, and in future, thanks to the incarnation, human love
will be suffused through and through with the divine.
Water can
indeed quench our thirst, but when water is permeated through and through with
the fruit of the vine and allowed to ferment, it is filled with properties and
powers that far surpass water alone. This is what happens when human love is
permeated by divine love. At Cana in Galilee Christ’s first miracle
demonstrated this, as a sign, by transforming water into wine. The sign
announces loud and clear, at least to people who knew the meaning of signs and
symbols in a way that was lost to later generations, that in future marital
love would be transformed by being suffused by divine love. That is why this
sacrament is so special. It is the only sacrament of the seven in which the
husband and wife, and not the priest or the bishop are the normal ministers. In
other words, it is they who transmit the love of God to one another through
each other’s love for one another, through the selfless sacrifices that they
make for each other every day and every moment of every day for the rest of
their lives. This love is then literally handed on to their children, even
before it is received directly and independently from God.
God’s
Love
I first
experienced God’s love through my parents’ love as an infant, even before I was
baptised. In my case, my baptism confirmed what had already happened, was
happening and would continue to happen through my parents’ love for each other
that overflowed onto me. Long before my mother taught me how to pray, how to
turn to receive God’s love independently, and long afterward, for that matter,
her love continued to sustain me. I well remember when I was ill as a very
small child, how my mother swept me up into her arms and placed me in my
parent’s bed between her and my father where I felt safe, secure and loved.
When I was later handicapped with an ongoing incapacity, her love was lavished
on me, eventually giving me the security to live my life independently and even
to seek out the contemplative life. Without her love for me that would not have
been possible, nor would it have been possible for me to journey on through the
dark nights of spiritual purification where the fire of the Holy Spirit would
begin to purify me. I would never have persevered, nor ever have come to
experience, albeit in brief glimpses, the love that surpasses the
understanding. That is why St Bonaventure said that contemplation is first
learnt at the mother’s breast. For myself I know this to be true. However, the
sacramental marriage sanctified at Cana depended on another previous mystical
marriage for the first Christians that was solemnised at baptism during the
rites of Christian initiation. All are called to this mystical marriage,
whether married or not.
Mystical
Marriage
All the
great spiritual writers from the beginning used the analogy of human love to
show how this mystical marriage with Christ takes us up and into the love of
God. That is why they repeatedly used the most beautiful love poem in the Old
Testament, the Song of Songs, or the Song of Solomon, to describe and detail
the mystical journey through Christ into God. It was originally sung as
part of every Jewish marriage ceremony. It would have been sung by Jesus
himself with all the other guests at Cana as they escorted the bride from her
old home to the new home that she would henceforth share with her husband. It
should not, therefore, be surprising that for centuries to come, this mystical
marriage with Christ was the high point of the spiritual life for religious and
lay people alike.
Later,
however, although many spiritual writers rightly used the mystical marriage to
denote the high point of the mystic way, they wrongly believed that it is only
for a chosen few, usually only for those dedicated to God in religious life.
This is not the case, and never was in the profound mystical spirituality
taught to the first Christians by the Fathers of the Church. They received this
teaching from Jesus himself, long before religious life as we know it ever
existed. It is for all.
Spiritual
Marriage
The first
Christians were told of the spiritual marriage to which they were all called
before they were married in the usual way. They were taught that the
preparation and the spiritual purification that they had to undergo for this
marriage would help them develop a habit of selflessness and empathy for
others, long before they met their future husband or wife. Without the daily
and ongoing self-sacrificing learnt in deepening their mystical marriage with
Christ, marriage to another human being would never last, or never develop
beyond the purely superficial when first passions fizzled out.
There are
therefore two marriages for a Christian, the sacrament of marriage and the
mystical marriage to which we have all been called at baptism. When the new
Christians emerged from the baptismal pool as one with Christ, they were led in
procession into the Christian community where their spiritual marriage was
consummated for the first time in Holy Communion. This Marriage, however, was
not the end of, but the beginning of love, a love that would be demonstrated
time and time again every day and in every moment of every day, for the rest of
their lives through all that they said and did.
The five
times a day that they prayed, as Jesus did with his disciples, was not a daily
drudgery but a daily delight. It enabled the married mystics to touch and be
touched repeatedly by the One to whom they had committed themselves in a
spiritual marriage that begins in this life, but which is only completed in the
next. Every Sunday this spiritual marriage was consummated in Holy Communion,
reinforcing their love and surcharging it with the power to continue expressing
their love for God. When both marriages, the human and the divine are lived to
the full, they simultaneously enhance each other.
Loving
Selfless Sacrifices
The
loving selfless sacrifices made in both these marriages enables a person
to join Christ at every moment of their day, offering themselves with him and
through him in the new worship in spirit and truth, that Jesus
promised to the Samaritan woman (John 4:23). That is why, when the early
Christians came to offer themselves to God in an act of communal worship at the
end of the great Eucharistic prayer, St Justin said that the sound of the
great Amen was proclaimed with such power and gusto that it
all but took the roof off. Why? Because that Amen represented
all that they had done, all that they had given, and all the sacrifices that
they had been making to God, in both their spiritual and their human marriages
that complement each other.
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