Building Your Marriage: Some
thoughts from St. Paul
These verses of Scripture
from St. Paul are commonly used in Christian marriage ceremonies. They speak of
the relationship between a husband and his wife. As beautiful as they are, they
are also very misunderstood and misinterpreted. Look closely and see their
wisdom for your marriage. In Ephesians 5,21 to 33 Paul writes:
“Submit to one another out
of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the
husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body,
of which he is the Savour. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives
should submit to their husbands in everything.
“Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her to make her
holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present
her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other
blemish, but holy and blameless.
“In the same way, husbands
ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves
himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for
it, just as Christ does the church – for we are members of his body. For this
reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and
the two will become one flesh. This is profound mystery, but I am talking about
Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as her
loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Comment There are four important points here. First, Christ loves
us so much that he wants to marry us. He call us his bride, and he uses
marriage as a picture of his relationship to the church and to each one of us
as his followers. He personally washes his church. Second, there is the “S”
word – submission. Submission does not imply inferiority. God made Eve out of
the side of Adam, to be bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh – his equal –
his companion. To say that submission somehow implies inferiority is to say
that Jesus, when he submitted to the Father, was somehow inferior to the
Father. Submission does not imply inferiority in any way. It is a voluntary
reliance on another in perfect trust. In fact, the Apostle Paul says that we are
all to submit to each other. Wives to submit to husbands, husbands to wives,
and both to Christ.
Third, husbands are to be
the leaders of the family, the pastors at home. And men are to love their wives
as Christ loves the church, and even died for her.
And finally, just as Jesus
prepares his bride, the church, for the day when she will be presented in
heaven, without spot or wrinkle, so husbands, as leaders, as to prepare their
wives to stand before God one day. Leadership at home is primarily a spiritual
responsibility.
the conjugal love of
Christian spouses is one of the specifics of the divine salvific reality. That
is, marriage is the specific venue of the reconciling ministry of Christ.
Christian marriage is inserted into the sphere of redemption. The fundamental
economy of Christianity, the fruitful unity of Christ and his church is
realised anew in every Christian marriage. Since a symbol not only points to
but also effects (brings about) the reality, we may say that Christ, as it
were, is waiting for Christian
spouses to love one another in order that through them he could express his
love for the church. Christ is “enabled” by spousal love to act upon the world.
By their love, married partners place the sign of Christ’s love for the church.
Christian marriage is the specific venue of Christ’s action of restoring
harmony in the world and creation.
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