Did Jesus Marry?
Some of Jesus’ teachings and
habits -
his prohibition of divorce, his rejection of showy fasting, his
voluntary celibacy - did not square with the beliefs and practices
of the major Jewish religious groups of his day. Had Jesus married, he would
quite comfortably have floated on the cultural mainstream. As a working
adolescent, he would easily have found a bride to his taste and earned the
acclamation of the neighbours. And Jesus was surely not unaware of the
tradition that expected every Jewish male to sire a legitimate son by the time
he was 18 years of age. As an itinerant preacher, he enjoyed himself at wedding
celebrations. Some of his parables were about the bridegroom, weddings guests,
and bridesmaids - all painted in bright positive colours. Jesus
saw sexuality and marriage as blessings given to humanity by a gracious Creator
concerned with man’s happiness. Yet it is historically certain that Jesus chose
to remain celibate, thereby going against what would have been unthinkable in
his time.
Family Circumstances
It is worth noting that the New
Testament is quite vocal about Jesus’ familial circumstances. The story of his
conception and birth brings into play a lot of family ties and lines running up
and down the family tree. Apart from his mother and her paradoxical marriage to
Joseph the craftsman (“tekton” in Greek), a lot of gospel coverage is given to
“his brothers and sisters.” Indeed, from the various statements of Mark, Luke,
John, Paul, and Acts, we learn about Mary, the mother of Jesus, about his
thought-to-be father, Joseph, about his four brothers named James, Joses, Jude,
and Simon, and about his unnamed sisters.
The second century Jewish-Christian
writer, Hegesippus, mentions Clophas, an uncle of Jesus, and Symeon, a cousin.
The gospel story also pulls in a lot of characters with family connections, who
figure in Jesus’ public ministry: Mary Magdalene, Joana, the wife of Chuza,
steward of Herod, Susanna, Mary, the mother of James the Less and Joses,
Salome, and the mother of the sons of Zebedee, and, last but not least, Martha
and Mary, the lady friends ! With so
many familial characters thrown around him, like flowers in a garland, what
prevented the gospels from popping in the name of a wife, if any? The loquacity
of the New Testament about the one raises the question regarding the silence
about the other; the answer to which is quite simply, there wasn’t any other!
If Jesus had married, the gospel writer would have hurried to throw in the last
piece and completed the family snapshot with grace and ease! But the total silence
about a wife and children of Jesus, named or unnamed, has an obvious
explanation: none existed.
Family Opposition and Loyalty
Jesus’ mother, brothers and sisters
survived into the period of his public ministry, though not without tension
between them and him - they thought him crazy (John 7, 5); or that
Jesus refused to meet with them (Mark 3, 31 – 35). If Jesus had a wife, where
was she in all this? Did she resist the family opposition, like a loyal wife,
or ditch him to go over to their side? His Resurrection, however, demolished
the family opposition; otherwise how explain that his brother, James, became a
prominent leader of the Jerusalem church, with other family members following
on? How is it that the gospel says that
some of his disciples left their wives and children to follow him, while never
speaking of that precise sacrifice in his own case? The answer, quite simply,
is that he had made an earlier and more radical sacrifice. If marriage is not
the building of community in God, it is nothing. This is the ultimate reality
of which marriage is one of the perceptible signs. Jesus Christ engaged the
heart of reality; he could do without the sign.
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